Is He Boyfriend Worthy?
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My client Charlene is in her late 40’s – smart successful woman. After working with me for a few weeks, she met a man online; named Mark (*names have been changed). After emailing for a short period of time, they progressed to phone conversation and finally an in person date. After dating for about 2 months, Charlene noticed that Mark was growing distant, stopped complimenting her, became emotional unavailable, did not take a sincere interest her life and he only wanted to connect with her to cry and complain about his own mishaps in life.

During one of our sessions, Charlene shared several messages and conversations that she and Mark exchanged, but what was most concerning was some of his disturbing behavior traits she sha
red namely: selfishness, his lack of concern for her and his inability to create a deep and meaningful connection.

Charlene desperately wanted to hold on to Mark and make things work.

I sympathized with Charlene, but I could not help but ask her, WHY?

Why would she allow herself to tolerate this type of nonsense and ignore his behavior? Why didn’t she love herself more and pay attention to her gut feelings?

After all, nothing that she said about his character was positive, except that he called and texted her frequently which made her feel special.

So I asked her, what would you have to loose if you cut him loose – besides the calls and texts? She hesitated a bit… so I proceeded with my 3QBF Test (3 Question Boyfriend) to help her determine if he was a boyfriend worthy or not.

3QBF Test

Q1: How does he make you feel? Are you happy and having fun in your relationship?

Her answer was “NO.”

Here’s the real deal – It doesn’t matter how tall, dark, handsome, sexy, or financially stable a man is – if he can not make an emotional connection, have fun and make you feel amazing than – you are wasting your time and settling for mediocrity.

Q2: Does he see you in his future? When a man is serious about a woman, he will make an effort and make plans to see you as frequently as possible as well as make plans to do things in the future.  Yes, he will profess his feelings and desire to be with you, commit and grow together.

Q3: He desires to provide for you and protect you. Men have a natural desire to provide for the woman he loves: spiritually, emotionally, physically, intimately and financially.

So if you are currently dating and the relationship is a struggle, toxic and causing inner turmoil – It’s time to set yourself free and give yourself permission to attract a high-quality man that can pass the 3QBF Test.

Are you tired of being frustrated with dating?  Let 2017 be the year that you create your Love Breakthrough, end your single streak and attract your Mr. Right!

Looking for a Love Breakthrough in your life in 2017?  Register for the Love Breakthrough Summit.

Your Girl – The Healthy Love Coach



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There are 3 comments so far

  • Mah
    11 months ago · Reply

    Wow… he does pass the 3 questions but I’m still unsure… that must mean I’ve got some more inner working to do. But having some guidance on how to analyse this is great. Thanks for the insightful posts, dear.

    • 7 months ago · Reply

      Hello Mah!
      I am hosting a FREE 5- Part Masterclass that will speak to this topic a bit more.
      Here is the link:

    • Camille Author
      3 months ago · Reply


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