How to be Resilient when Rejected​
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Rejection is not easy, believe it or not, there were men that I wanted to be with for the rest of my life but they just were not into me.

The truth of the matter: I was not the woman who they could see themselves spending the rest of their life with.

Are you a woman who has a fear of being rejected or lonely?

Just the thought of hearing the word no or being rejected by a man could prevent us from opening ourselves up to dating and love.

Which could ultimately cause us to have regret and be lonely… unnecessarily!

One of the keys to being resilient is not the fact that we were rejected but the conversation you have in your head and the actions that follow the rejection. This is especially the case when it comes to being rejected by a man.

I had a choice to stay stuck. Cry, internalize it, criticize myself. Or I could realize that he was not the right man and not the right time.

The difference between women who can deal with rejection and move on and those who get stuck.

Has to do with how she handles her perception.

Here are five ways to change your perspective when you are rejected by a man you like… so that you can push forward and attract the love you truly deserve without giving up.

1. Rejection can be protection.

•Sometimes a “no” is the best thing that could happen to you.
•Who knows… that was probably the best thing that could have happen to you…  Perhaps this is Gods way of telling you that you have some internal work to do, or perhaps he does.

2. Stop taking his decision personally.

• What others say and do it not about you, it is about them.
• When you come to understand that everything truly is not about you – it’s not personal, it frees you from feeling that you are not enough.
• Thin enough, smart enough, blond enough
• Realize that his decision probably did not have anything to do with you, your beautyf, your worthiness or any sin you might have done.

3. You deserve to be in relationship with a man who wants to be in a relationship with you.

• This is especially true for personal relationships.
• Why do you continue to chase a man that doesn’t want to be with you?
• When that is the case, feelings of rejection and unworthiness will be repeatedly reinforced throughout the relationship.
• Patiently wait to meet a man who values you and cherishes your worth.
• When you learn to appreciate your worth and understand that you deserve to be loved and cherished you won’t take rejection so personally, instead, you will learn from it.

4. Just because one man rejects you, doesn’t mean your Mr. Right will.

• Timing, alignment, and chemistry is the key to all relationships.

5. Pay attention to the lesson

• If a man explains why he’s not choosing you, pay attention to the lesson and do the inner work to make the changes you need to.


What’s blocking you from the love that you desire and deserve?

My challenge to you this week:

  • Make a decision to not allow rejection to leave you feeling dejected and diminished.
  • Shift Your Perspective Reinterpret “no” in ways that are empowering.


Journal about it:

  • What rejection or “no” is it time to bounce back from?
  • Which of the five reinterpretations resonates most with you?
  • How will you use it in your situation?

To learn more about how I can help deal with rejection… click here and schedule some time to chat!

Your Girl, The Healthy Love Coach!

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