Happy Two-Year Anniversary to Mr. and Mrs Right!
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Two years ago, I flew to Hawaii and married my Mr. Right in a private sunrise 016HawaiiBeachWaterfallWedding16507Parrishceremony on Waimanalo Beach in Oahu, Hawaii.   Waimanalo Beach is awe-inspiring with its turquoise blue water and miles of the softest white sand that my toes have ever walked on.

Many women often ask, how did I meet and marry my Nathan, my Mr. Right in only eleven months.  So here goes!   A mutual friend would always tell me that she found the perfect husband for me, and I would always say… yeah yeah yeah.  Although it was about three months before we met, she continued telling me,  “I think you both are perfect for each other, he is God-fearing, a perfect gentlemen, hard worker, smart, responsible, honest, kind and handsome.”  Apparently she said similar complimentary things to Nathan about me.  

FullSizeRender-7One day, Nathan just showed up at a private party I was giving.  Although I never saw a picture of him, when he showed up at the party, the energy in the room instantly changed and I knew exactly who he was.   We sat by the pool chatting for hours and believe it or not,  I felt like Nathan was playing hard to get, by telling me he doesn’t like to give his number out.  However he would love to exchange email addresses – and so we did. 

After emailing back and forth for a few months, and seeing him at a few parties, he finally asked for my phone number, as if my number was not on the bottom of EVERY SINGLE EMAIL. I remained in my feminine, played IMG_2919along and gave him my number.  He called that same evening and he did not waste time letting me know that he was interested in me, and asked if I would accompany him to a play near Beverly Hills.  Although I traveled weekly for work, I made myself available and we had the most amazing time at the show and a fabulous dinner at a Japanese Steak House. We talked for hours and then he drove me home.  I gave him a big hug and smile and into my house I went without delay – alone.  No kissing and no bumping and grinding.  I called him up to compliment him on the evening and how handsome he looked.  I also let him know how much I appreciated the thoughtful planning that went into the night… the play and dinner were absolutely amazing! 

For the next eleven months, he took me out almost every week and sometimes twice a week, if I was in town, and I would end every evening the same… an affectionate hug, big smile and a girlish giggle.

Now ladies, here is one of my most important ingredients in my secret sauce to attracting Mr. Right!  Although we went out often, I never acted like his girlfriend.  Instead, I graciously accepted the role as his friend (without benefits) and I did not pressure him with questions about making commitments or promises. Nor did I ever ask him out or buy him gifts early in our relationship.  If he asked me out and I felt like being in his company, I did.  However, if I felt like I wanted to do something different or spend time with another person of interest I did.  Remember: doing and aggressiveness are masculine. So I did not act like we were exclusive until he officially asked me to be exclusive. This gave me the space and time to make sure that I liked him and only him before I fell in love with him.

Too often women fall in love too quick simply because she had a few great dates and good conversation.  Although, a man may know if he likes you and wants to marry you, however he usually needs some time to determine if he can 010HawaiiBeachWaterfallWedding16507Parrishconnect, share and see you in his future.  If you make him feel like you are getting too serious too soon, it will overwhelm him and cause him to withdraw and even disappear.  So chillax, and enjoy the relationship without sex or any strings attached. Positioning yourself in this manner will cause him to relax into you, start sharing with you and seeing you as an amazing woman that he wants to share his future with.

Although Nathan and I talked often and enjoyed an evening out frequently, I remained busy and focused on my life.  I was also confident, I continued to have parties, attend events and do my own thing.  In fact he told me, that vibrating at a high-energy frequency, along with having confidence and passion for life coupled with authentic craziness, served as the magnet that attracted him to me.

Here’s another big tip, I never acted like his mother and I did not allow my representative show up with sugar-coated conversation.  I did not do his laundry, clean up for him, cook for him, run over to play nurse or do booty calls, pick him up or drive him around.  Many women think that these activities demonstrate their love for a man, but in reality these push him away from you and may cause him to lose interest in you.

Don’t go hunting for a man. I was completely caught off guard because I was a social butterfly who enjoyed the idea of living my life to the fullest extent while taking my time to select a husband who loves God more than me and would love me more then he loves himself.  And Nathan was enjoying his life traveling and seeing the world. 

Once I was clear about his character, I did not attempt to compare him with other men, my girlfriend’s husband or my ex.  When a man enters into a relationship, he hopes that a woman doesn’t try to change him – so it was important for me to accept him as he was, allowing him to be himself, while understanding as a human he would make mistakes.

So about eleven months into our “friendship,” we went out to dance and as we were sitting and talking…  (I probably had one too many to drink… because his lips were looking so yummy that before I knew it) I leaned in and we kissed for the first time… and of course he kissed me back, again and again that night.  052HawaiiBeachWaterfallWedding16507ParrishThe kiss was so amazing and sent me floating on cloud nine.  Ah, it had been at least four years since I kissed a man. This was the night that our relationship shifted, as now we were kissing – still no-sex, but lots of kissing.  This was the changing point in our relationship, and Nathan asked me to be exclusive and four months later he asked me to marry him.

I truly believe that being a spiritual minded woman, who is confident, and in tune with her core values and needs, I set the tone for the relationship and positioned me to allow him to see me as his future wife.  Nathan always planned, provided and professed his love, always seeking to put a smile on my face. Nathan never spares any expense to make me happy and put a smile on my face.  Even when it came to the engagement ring, he asked me to send him three pictures of the rings I like; he paid for our trip to Hawaii for our wedding and four months after we were married, we took a month-long trip to South Africa, London and Paris. Once we got back home, he retired himself and me so that I could focus more on my business. 

We’ve had our fair share of challenges over the past two years, blending our families, and dealing with family health issues, but we have also had some many blessings, sharing love and living a life of service in our ministry.

Virnez-CamilleHeadshots-27 copyBlending two different personalities and families definitely has required a great deal of effort, but living a spiritually-centered life that’s focused on loving each other unconditionally makes everything worth it.  We still enjoy date night out, just the two of us, and our juicy conversations.  We are so excited about this next year and hope that you will stay tuned to share in our joy while we share the inside scoop on how to not only attract Mr. Right, but I will be sharing nuggets on how to keep your Mr. Right.

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There are 3 comments so far

  • Tonya Jackson
    2 years ago · Reply

    This is like a true fairy tale……..i love ROMANCE…..i look forward to my happy ever after….CONGRATS 2 U BOTH!!

  • Tonya Jackson
    2 years ago · Reply

    True LOVE…..sounds beaUtiful….every girls fairy tale….i look forward to my happy ever after….

  • Tonya Jackson
    2 years ago · Reply

    CONGRATS….

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