Did He Break Your Heart and Doesn’t Seem to Care?
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Did He Break Your Heart and Doesn’t Seem to Care?

He seemed like your potential Mr. Right – He said all the right things, took your breath away, you surrendered to love – then BAM – HE LEFT YOU!

A breakup can be devastating, especially if you weren’t the one who decided to end the relationship or you did not see the breakup coming. You thought everything was great and had no clue that your partner was unhappy. Perhaps he acted like everything was just fine. He stopped chasing you. The dates stopped. He stopped texting you funny stuff throughout the day. He stopped responding to the sexy pictures you sent.

Here’s the Real Deal: When you receive a man into your life, you not only receive him physically, you also receive him emotionally and energetically.   This is powerful and makes you vulnerable. – So even if the relationship is not in a healthy state and a breakup is eminent you maybe clueless because your heart and mind may be in conflict regarding the true status of the relationship. You desperately want more from the relationship he wanted, so you begin to try every trick up your sleeve to try to force him to change: communicate more, see you more, love you more and commit to the relationship.

Deep in your mind, you know you were not receiving the love, respect and commitment you deserve, but because you are in turmoil and your heart is afraid of being alone – you convince yourself that it’s better to be in a mediocre relationship than to have no relationship at all. So you start making excuses to chase a man that doesn’t love you anymore. In your desperation and disbelief you make up crazy excuses and reasons to see him, even CRAZIER – you show up where he is, you might even resort to trying to trap in in a relationship or run a guilt trip on him in hopes that he will feel sorry for you and make your pain go away. Or perhaps you wasting time watching your phone, waiting for him to call you or respond to a text you sent days ago. When he doesn’t you begin playing eye-spy on social media to see if you can find out what has cause this fool to loose his mind.

The truth is that rejection and abandonment hurts (period). Furthermore, it is humiliating and disempowering and can bring you to your knees. You may even start to think that something is wrong with you, make excuses for him and even blame yourself for the breakup.

Most men won’t give you closure, which can leave you feeling like you were not given a chance to address or fix the issues and make the relationship work. – This can leave you stuck grieving your past lover for years. I wrote about this in my book, “Successful Women Date Differently: Secrets to Attracting the Love you Deserve.”

Although it may be hard to believe right now… You can get on the other side of this pain and begin to heal and at the right time open your heart love and see yourself as worthy of being loveable again.

Here are three things you can do to help with your loss:

1. Do NOT REACH out to HIM

It’s very important that you detach from your ex and stop keeping up with his life. – Don’t: call him, email, text him, send jokes or pop-up to see him.

Making excuses to see him, will only provide a temporary relief for your pain, put you on an emotional roller coaster and postpone your healing/grieving process.

2. Journal

As women, we have a need to express ourselves and journaling can be an effective way to pour your heart out. Write your feelings, thought and even letters to your ex in your journal. Men don’t do closure, so you have to develop the resilience to move forward for yourself. – You may share what you have written, with a friend, therapist or a coach, however – DO NOT mail or share this information with your ex. (It will only result in more hurt feelings and confusion.)

3. Get Support – Find a coach or therapist that you can work with or a group that you can join. Raising your hand and getting the support you need will help you rejuvenation, rediscover and rebuild your life in a way that will help you break the cycle of attracting unhealthy relationship and empower you to make healthier choices and actions that will ultimately create a safe, fulfilling and extraordinary future for you.

It all starts with, Breaking the Grip of Past Lovers and I’d like to help you do that.

For a limited time I am offering a special “Love Breakthrough Session” for ZERO COST.

During this special one-on-one coaching session we’ll work together to…

  • Create a crystal clear strategy to put your past lover behind you so you can break his grip and move forward.
  • We’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success with men and dating.
  • You’ll leave the session renewed, reenergized and inspired to find and keep a great man once and for all.

To claim your special “Love Breakthrough Session” today, simply click here and be prepared to answer these questions:

  1. How long have you been single?
  2. On a scale of zero to 10 how important is it for you to get in to a relationship now?
  3. What do you see as your biggest relationship challenges?
  4. What would you most like help with when it comes to men and dating?

 

Your Girl – The Healthy

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