Is Dating Like Shopping for a Pair of Stiletto?
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Let me ask you a question…
Have you ever purchased cheap trendy heels that were 2 sizes to big or small and as a result they bought the agony of blisters and pain?

How did it work out for you?

Did you keep them and continue wearing them just because you purchased in them… Even though they may have caused you to walk around like a toddler dressing up in her mothers shoes? Or… Did you return them for another pair that was a better fit?

Dating men can be likened to shopping for shoes! If you know and feel that he is not a good fit, if he is not really into you, only wants sex, doesn’t seem to return your calls, emails and texts in a timely manner, and he prefers to hook-up at home and seldom take you out in public… RETURN HIM! Why would you continue to hold on to him (AKA: Mr. Wrong) wasting your time, when you the reality is that he is not going connect with you or give you the commitment and future that you desire?

Here is the real deal: a woman who is consciously aware, loves herself and is living in present would never stayed in a relationship or devote her precious time to a man when its evident that he does not share your core values, he doesn’t get you and its obvious that he is not you.

It breaks my heart to hear many of these stories. Lovely, passionate women who have a lot to offer the world stay with the wrong man for no other reason than their unwillingness to let him go. They feel lonely, emotionally abused, miserable and hurt—the relationship is not going anywhere—but they still choose to stay. They do it not realizing that they are not just hurting themselves, but hurting their chances of attracting soul level love with their Mr. Right.

A man should impact more than just your relationship status and every day that you spend with Mr. Wrong is one more day that you are not spending with your Mr. Right.

Holding on to a man or a dead relationship knowing that your expectations about the future are unrealistic is debilitating and is an indication that you unconsciously dating, you are not willing to accept reality and you probably have some inner work to do to repair some type wounding from the past.

Dating men can be likened to shopping for stilettos. Most men that you meet and date will probably not be your Mr. Right rather they are simply part of your journey to Mr. Right, which is similar to your quest to finding that perfect pair of stilettos.

Most women that I know and work with who are looking for a great pair of stilettos don’t give up easily – nor do they take it personally when a pair of shoes doesn’t fit! – No matter how beautiful or sexy they are. In reality, most women will shop for days and sometimes months until they find the perfect pair of stilettos that fit.

So next time that you dating a man – remember that each man you meet may not be a perfect fit: He may not be into you and you may not be into him. But the key is, not to take to take it personally, play the blame game, get on your pity pot or get angry – rather accept it as part of the process.

Keep this in mind – when you try to force a pair of stilettos on your feet even though they are not a good fit… you’ll end up in a lot of pain. The same is true with relationships. Getting attached to man when you are not clear if you both are a good fit is unhealthy.

When you are in a healthy loving relationship and it is a good fit – the relationship will naturally progress to a level where you BOTH want to commit to each other as well as improve the quality of each others life.

Your Girl – The Healthy Love Coach!

 

 

PS. Be sure to check out my upcoming: Love Breakthrough Virtual Summit!  Starting on January 30th!

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