Are You Pushing Your Man Away?
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Have you been on your first few dates with a new guy and suddenly he started pulling away? There is nothing more frustrating in the world of dating, than to date a high-quality guy who seems really nice and great chemistry, but he slowly disappears after a few dates. I received a disturbing call from one of my client Monica not too long ago about her recent experienced with this exact situation.

During my coaching session with Monica I encourage her to reflect on her approach with men and how they normally reacted to her. After working with her in our session she began to see the pattern of men pulling away from her and I helped her gain clarity on the 3 things that she was doing to cause high-quality men to pull away from her.

Here are the top three things that I noticed that she and a few of my other clients were doing to cause their man to pull away:

  1. Show up with masculine energy – Like many of my clients Monica is highly successful, educated, strong and independent woman. Like many of the women I work with, although successful and prominent in the community, she did not appreciate her own self-worth. As a matter of fact, her success was due to over-compensating and seeking approval from others through her accomplishments. She put in hard work for her job, but she did not know how to transition out of the masculine energy that carried her through her workday and it spilled over into her romantic relationship. Monica was not aware that she was showing up in her relationships like a boss. She was not opening up to her new man, she was controlling all of the dates and to top it all off… she acted like she did not need a man.

2.  She was too passive. When you show up as passive in a relationship, waiting for your man to make every single move, he will perceive you as being indifferent. If you really like a man, but you are trying to keep your cool, he will think that you really don’t care how the relationship turns out. You might think you are being cautious and trying not to seem overly excited about the relationship, but if you don’t show appreciation and excitement for the things that he does, he won’t know how you feel. In addition, if he can’t tell how you feel he may decide to find a woman who is willing open up, receive his love and express gratitude for the things he does. I encouraged Monica to be a little more balance, show more appreciation and share herself slowly with him.

3.  Rush to commitment. You might feel that once you meet a great high quality man that you want to do whatever it takes to hold onto him. However when you rush through the relationship, share too much and have sex too soon you will actually push him away; while you are getting lustfully attached due to oxytocin. Men don’t connect in the same way as we do as women and they need to feel like they are adding value to your life and earning your love. In addition, rushing the natural process of a relationship can also make you seem desperate and ultimately pushes him away from you.

Enjoy the slow walk.

During our coaching sessions, I encouraged Monica to allow her relationship to unfold naturally. This process took a little work but once Monica stop rushing through the relationships and actually focused a little more on her own internal work with me to become the best version of herself and reaching her goals. She felt more fulfilled and the high-quality Mr. Right that she was dating started drawing closer to her and connecting with her on a deeper level. As a matter of fact, they were recently married in the South of France in a private ceremony after only 9-months of dating.

If you would like to learn how to create your own Love Breakthrough, be sure to join 12-day-love-breakthrough-fb-image-smallthe 12-Day Love Breakthrough Challenge where you will enjoy 12 days of being mentored by me for absolutely free!

This is your opportunity to literally save yourself months and even years of frustration trying to attract your Mr. Right.

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I wish you love!

Your Girl… The Healthy Love Coach




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